Saturday, December 28, 2013

Iqbal clan

[Nine years have passed mashallah..since I joined this new family. Dedicated to Iqbal clan with love]

“Family isn’t always blood.It is the people in your life who want you in theirs.The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what”

I was warned by the mention of the family prayer:”mai panah maangta/maangti huun, shaitaan mardood sai aur Saad k mood sai “.but when  I look down the memory lane…this is not what I see.
I see Ammi taking effort to make every room ready and spic n span for  each family .Her worries every time  about our sleeping well and  pushing us to sleep so she can sleep peacefully knowing everyone has a proper place. Our refusal to stop our chatting sessions and non stop bakwaas and delaying sleeping time as much as possible and in the morning ammi getting surprised to see everyone sleeping in the same room .
Then there is this barbeque mania..where everything from steaks and bihari kabab to roti and even tea is cooked on the awesome BBQ  place outside.
I look back ..and see..the cards...pictionary ...balloon fights..scrabble sessions...which themselves have memories of their own.
The frequent trips to Muree..bhurban..abbotabad..and places which we never knew existed..thanks to the fauji jawan of our family.I see..the innumerable plans and khayaali palaos we made  and then deciding who would talk to Abbu about it.
Hyper kids past their bed time enjoying each others company ..not wanting to waste even a second of the cousins reunion...and despite of fights and argument shuddering at the thought of going back.I remember the confusion when calling a child ..we call the child with every name but his/her own name.
Also worth mentioning is the whole year supply of garlic,onion and fresh vegetables .Cherished thoughts of picking lychee.oranges..from our own farm...and even the delightful moments of saying 'this is from OUR farm'.
The hysterical moments in which every thing said is taken with a secondary twisted meaning and of course with a burst of hysterical laughter.
Thank you for the loving me as your own…for the ,guidance and most of all for the smiles n happiness you provide me with everyday .Yes ..I can brag about my in-laws.You all are nothing short of amazing .i love you all.

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Hasan bhai

"Confidence is believing yourself when no one else does"
Hasan bhai is full of confidence..with an extra dose always with him . He can tell you the uncensored version of the truth very comfortably and  he is almost always himself.
Trying to win an argument with him is like fighting a lost battle….He will never let you…no..never..don't even think about it!
Once he decides something..he just has to do matter what…be it making bihari kabab in saRi garmi or going some where at mid-night.If he has decided to do will be done!
He should be appreciated and applauded for supporting and encouraging his spouse in studies as well as career with a small baby in house.He is a true modern man who supports women's education practically.
Hasan bhai is doston ka dost .His friends  can do anything for him and he can do anything for them.
He knows the trick to be a child's favorite person around . Toddlers love his company. He is ever ready for indulging in fun and adventurous activities. You plan something..and hasan bhai would be already in.
Hasan bhai..We are proud of you for  always supporting  and cooperating with tania baji in her studies as well as career .Lets celebrate hasan bhai..:)

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Saima Sardar

"Be  who you are and say what you feel because people who mind  Do Not Matter and those who matter Don't Mind."

When I think about Saima Sardar I think about her spontaneous replies and frequent laughter.  She can keep you entertained with her never ending chats and witty remarks. Even when she is serious ..she would be funny.
Her bubbly nature makes her full of life…and an excellent company to be with . She will be just as frank with you as you want her to be . She wont  go off limits as far as your personal matters are concerned.
If I could relate a quote with her it would surely be "Life is too short to be taken seriously".
Saima !you teach us positivity and  to see the brighter side of  life ..just by being yourself.I am inspired by your sparkling smile and your cheerfulness. Stay yourself..:)..We love you just the way you are!

Wednesday, December 4, 2013


Taiyaba is the one having the listening ear for kids them full attention.
 She is encouraging the little ones always ....and they love her for that. Her beautiful smile  always accompanies her and is always  fresh as the morning dew.
Her  photographs are always inspiring , different , beautiful and with a professional touch. The other  thing that inspires us is her designing skills. The  place around her is always adorned with wonderful artistic details.
Her adorable curls compliment her style well.
Taiyaba we love you for your smile , style  and your caring ways.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013


“Words can be twisted into any shape . In the final analysis, words mean nothing. They are labels we give to things in an effort to wrap our little brains around their underlying natures, when ninety-nine percent of the time the totality of the reality is  entirely different . The wisest man is the silent one. Examine his actions. Judge him by them.”

I rarely see him talking . But I remember he has this special charming smile.Feelings and words hide behind his smile.He thinks a thousand times before speaking.
The childhood memories with tushi are memorable although I cannot think of any words spoken by him.Gosh!Do you really talk that little?
Tushi had a grace from the very beginning . Even for a yes or no….he would just nod instead of actually speaking out. Sometimes he would just smile..leave you clueless if it’s a yes or no.
Tushi would prefer home cooked stuff rather going to restaurants .
I remember when he was in karachi…the first thing he would do in the morning was to read newspaper…and probably he even  read each and every advertisement..because he would stick to it for hours.
When we busied  ourselves in mischievous endeavors ..he never  took part in it…he would always be there with us..but silently .
Although I do remember some small fights when we visited him in India.One was  when we had an argument ..I shut the door of his room and lied that I am breaking your racket…you were furious and beating the door..but I cannot recall any words from you even then…!:D

Even you are not as connected online as others are..but I know you care…( that doesn’t mean that you stay that way:P....I cannot even link this blog to your to!?)
"you can listen to silence and learn from it. It has a quality and a dimension all its own."

His silence has a grace and his smile has a charm.
Tushi! Today we are celebrating you! We want to remind you that  you are an adorable member of our family.We love you and your quiet nature too.your smile looks so cute on you…keep smiling.

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Manjhlay abbi(tariq yaqoob)

His breakfast routine is very different and very interesting.Followed by an early morning walk, the breakfast includes eggs, almonds, pumpkinseeds, cranberries and wide variety of fruits. He would slowly eat his meal enjoying it fully.
You need real  focus to hear what he says but this focus is really worth it. As a doctor, he tells simple  tips for a healthy life...very different from the ones normally doctor tell. He backsup his advice by narrating his  experiences and research.
Being a tea addict myself,when I asked if it was difficult to get rid of the tea-habit.He replied calmly.."no, you just have to train your mind".
After a bad sore throat spell on my way back from Karachi, tea didn't attract me for a change. After recovering,my tea addiction vanished and the words echoed in my mind.."you just have to train your mind".I still drink tea but I am no more addicted to it.
You have the art to appreciate people for every little seemingly insignificant things.
I regret that we havent been in touch regularly and its only now that I got to know you a little better. I do hope that we stay in touch more often now.
I will miss your calm nature and obliviousness to the negative emotions like regrets,hate and complains .
I do hope we can learn positivity and calmness from you.

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Cyma Abid

"Enthusiasm is the sure way to teach easily and successfully."
Sitting still or  idle is the only thing  Saima Abid cannot do .She is full of enthusiasm and energy.
Saima teaches children with strict discipline but endless love.
She is outspoken ,bold and confident. She doesn’t hide herself behind masks . She speaks her mind and is comfortable being herself . She is hardworking and a workaholic. At the same time she is always ready to jump in any fun activity going around. 
Saima..the self-less dedication with which you taught nema in her first year of school is matchless.
Today I want to I appreciate your efforts, your dedication and your infectious enthusiasm which you showed as a colleague. Thank you and keep us energized..:)

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Anum Tanwir

"A cousin is the one who is already there doing it when everyone else is saying is there anything I can do?"
If there is someone who can handle kids better than their mother…it is you! love kids..and kids immediately fall in love with you.
Its amazing how you took care of nanoo in her last days…just like she was a little kid..'acha yeh bite ammi k liay kha len..yeh bite asra k liay khala len' that nanoo eats something.
Anum is surely as gentle and soft as a rose petal .
Her heart is made of pure gold…she is always concerned for you genuinely .She does not only asks if she can help….she actually steps forward to make your life easier..(especially if your kid is making your life miserable..:D) You saved us from the Audi episode  ..When you said "gulshan-e-iqbal"..:D
You guys always make it a point to visit us the very same day we come to Karachi..('her dafa aa jatay ho!')..:D….it does make us feel special and celebrated…and yes it means a LOT!!

"Smile is the key that fits the locks on everyone's hearts "...When you smile flashes of star sprinkle all around…! Your sweetest smile is the greatest gift  from God to us..and we treasure it!..and fits the locks on our hearts perfectly!
Anum ..You are a star….the one that shines the most..!
                                                  I love your smile...and your sweetness..and your kindness..and you!

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Mahjabeen Irshad

"We are all just waiting for someone to notice—notice our pain, notice our scars, notice our fear, notice our joy, notice our triumphs, notice our courage.
And the one who notices is a rare and beautiful gift…"

When I read these lines ..the first person that came to my mind was Maha..!
Maha is a noticer..!  She would be the first one to notice a changed mood…a new clothes…weight loss/gain...change in attitude…depression..happiness…..just about anything. She can read faces ..Yes..even if you are just chatting on internet..!LOL.
She can read emotions. She would just somehow know how you feel…your ups and down..even if you do not tell.
Maha is outspoken . When I first met her ..I was quite reluctant to be her friend .I thought her to be too candid and outspoken. But as time passed..I realized that this was her quality. She is so frank and open(and did I say blunt:D)….that you do not have to be someone else in front of just cannot be..(remember? She can read faces). She can say things right on your face….and does not pretend to agree ..if she has conflicting views.
She would not tell you ..just what you WANT to hear….she would tell you what you NEED to hear.!..Yes sometimes…she is painfully honest…:D..she would not even sugar-coat her opinions.
Maha ….I just love you for what you are..! And I am thankful to God for a friend who just knows ..what you feel….even if she is miles apart!
Thank you for being a friend….a counselor…a listener …and a noticer.
I love you..:)

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Sabeen Jamal

She was leaving for her NCC to Pakistan…before she left we had a fight over a   cassette of songs…she wanted  to take it to Pakistan…I wanted to keep it with me…eventually she took it..I was quite disgusted and did not like it . After she left..I went to sleep.. Under my pillow there was a note..'please naraz na hona'..the anger vanished …and love took over.
Apa ..growing up with you was good .Having you in life is like another  version of mom….always  giving   and never expecting…always leaving our misbehavior in the past and never bringing it in future. ..always loving and caring.
I sometimes think  you must have lost your way..and joined our family by chance
You are beautiful…and people hesitate to believe that we are from the same family..:D
You are so calm, patient, well behaved and 'sughar'…so unlike us..:D
The amazing patience with which you can handle kids...
Mustafa might have been scolded by everyone except you..
The only time I remember you raised your voice was..'hamai bhi to jeenay ka haq hai'  ..:D…(fara…! You were so cruel..:D)
When people say we look like you..we actually take it as a compliment.
I remember(and I know that you wont let me forget)that you took my share of scolding for my carelessness in school..just like an elder sister. 
"I smile because you are my sister ..I laugh because there is nothing you can do about it"…
We are the one privileged to have you in our life.
My mornings are too sweet because you are my online morning chai-partner..hours pass by so quickly when chatting with you. You ask for little details….and you care for every little thing.
We love your  silent stare…..and big eyes when you wake up ..we love your beautiful curls and your innocent smile with the perfect touch of shyness….we love your concern and care and little favors you do..we love your soft voice  and  everything you do.
"A sister is a gift from God, sent from above to make life worthwhile here below."
Yes make our life worthwhile..You make us special…Today I would like to thank you for all the ways you have cared..for your  endless love..You are just so adorable and lovable!
I might not tell you this often….but I love you a lot! Your caring ways always show us how much you care..and we might not be so good at it..but we do care for you and  love you loads… we might not accept this when in front of you…but we thank God for such a great blessing …that is you!
Although you are some one who should be celebrated every single we will take time out to  appreciate you ..and celebrate you ..for what you are..! We are so blessed to have you in our family.
We love you apa..:)

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Ne Khala

Her house is always sparkling clean and feels like a perfect home. Of all the houses , she has lived in thing is in common . Comfort .As soon so enter her house you start feeling homely and comfortable. I do not know what is it that makes it so relaxing . May be it is the cleanliness..or the royal way she treats the guests ..or  may be the way she designs her home. Whatever it is..a trip to her house is always relaxing. 
She showers everyone with gifts and especially takes care of making children feel special.
She makes her guests comfortable and feeds them as much as she can. If she is not well ..her very simple menu would consists of three dishes of meat, two dishes of vegetables, raita,salad, rice and roti..ONLY!:D
The trip to Sui was the most memorable one . She took extra care of Hena and me. Delicious meals..fresh juices every evening…movies and entertainment  . I also remember my birthday which I celebrated there .As the cake was not available on that day…she made me an ice-cream cake. Yes..I will remember that khala…it made me feel so special.

Annie khala is full of creativity. Be if clothes…little details in designing house or presentation  and ideas for food. Mashallah she has limitless ideas always.
Ne khala…although our political view are poles apart but it does not change the fact that you have been a wonderful khala.
I also accept the fact that we are equally afraid of khaloo's aankh and your daant..:D
Thank you for all the things you have done…for all the love and care…for all the lovely daanTs and for being such a caring khala.
We all love you.
If I could borrow one of your characteristics ..I know for would be your creativity.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Sadaf Azhar

Sometimes we forget to appreciate people who contribute to making our life wonderful. Living in a joint family together ..we have a special bonding …and so do our children .I have shared wonderful moments with you .The best was eating gol- gappay in Lahore .I wanted to have some  but omar bhai was in not a very good mood..but you managed to get it for me…..and we ate it  so quickly….actually it seemed like the tastiest gol-gappay of my life..:D….
And then there was walking to the shop late at night to eat tikka ..after putting bachas and husbands to sleep:D
It is not my fault that the best gift I can think for you is loads of chilli chips and slims :D
You tolerate omar bhais daant for us…so that we can complete our shopping .  Your children are the most disciplined I have seen.
You can message  the same recipe over and over again ..whenever I need without any fuss .(wait..have I lost it again?:D)
Having you means I can cherish the fact that my memory is slightly better than at least some one:D
  You have the guts to take a stand for what you think right . At the same time you are always ready to say sorry  and forgive. You are confident and a good speaker . 
 Visiting you means endless cups of tea ,delicious meals,(that wonderful Raita ),pedicures, facials and having time to be lazy.
Thank you for all the wonderful things you do .Sadaf baji.. I want to tell you today that you are an important part of my life. Thank you for being there for  me always…for listening to me…for supporting me always..for being with me in difficult times…for sharing hysterical craziest moments. Although you admit forgetting to call on special occasions sometimes but I know in my  heart that you care and this is all that matters.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Nani amma

Nani amma is someone who has the strongest will power in the whole family. She is always telling herself 'I can do it ..i can do it..!'. Sometimes the basis of argument with her daughter (Anjum Iqbal is just that)..she thinks that nani amma should not be putting too much stress on her self but nani amma tells confidently :"No I can do it and I will do it".
Every eid….each one of us gets eidi from nani amma ….although she is never in Pakistan at that time .
Whether it is the next morning of a  tiring flight or of a sleepless would see her waking up for fajar prayers and reading Quran.
Her basin ki roti one of the most amazing things in world..!

She has this way of mingling with everyone that while cracking all type of jokes you do not hesitate that nani amma is sitting with you. In fact  she is the one who would make you laugh . She is frank and hates takulluf. Her secret giggles are are just so cute.
She would insist on doing her work herself to remain active .She can sit a thousand times to takes rest while walking in muree..but in no way would she miss the fun.She would walk and enjoy with us no matter how tired she gets.
Nani amma…We might not tell you every time we  meet you..but yes we love you..:)
You are one of the cutest nanis in this world.
If I could borrow one of your characteristics it would be standing up for your own rights .

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Aneela Sardar Khan

“In life you will realize that there is a purpose for every person you meet .Some are there to test you , some will use you ,some will teach you and some will bring out the best in you ”
Aneela Sardar Khan is someone who brings out the best in you.
She proved to be a guiding light in the start of my teaching career. She taught all the basics along with placing full confidence in my abilities.
Instead of playing blame games , she concentrates on finding solution .If you make mistake ..she would not just order you to ‘GO and FIX IT’. She would sit down with you and will show the correct way..she will give you her time to fix the problem..
She has the audacity to tell the truth at all time .Lying is a very common method to save oneself from unintentional mistakes .But she would rather face consequences rather than lying.
She is so open and frank with her sub-ordinates ..that they do not find any backbiting material about her. Whenever faced with a problem , they come right up to her.
Even though she is always on her toes, she would always take out time to discuss the problems her staff might face.
Thank you Aneela Sardar Khan for being a leader ,a teacher and a friend . You rock!

Tuesday, October 1, 2013


Sarosh has always been talkative and expressive. His lighthearted nature makes him a good company to be with. His conversations almost always have a touch of humor.
He can explain an event with such vigor and liveliness..that it almost seems hard to believe.When you ask him that is every detail true..he would answer:
"Ham to baat ko exciting bananay k liay keh rahay thay"
Sosi is a creative cook…who knows how to make his food look different and  pleasing.
Though we did not  have the chance to meet him often…but whenever he came to Pakistan..he not only was a crime partner with us in pranks but played a vital role in all the badmashis.
Sosi is outspoken and speaks freely his mind..but of course with humor to make it digestible…:D we will celebrate you.This is a reminder that we love you and you hold a special place in our lives.

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Kishwar Enam

You dimpled smile is the cutest I have ever seen.
Your look of innocence makes you even more beautiful.

People give  gifts on different occasions . You look for occasions to give gifts. You make excuses to shower people with presents . 'This is for your birthday'…..'this is because you are in Karachi'….''this is because I was not satisfied with the gift I gave earlier''..and so on.

You were my pick for 'My khala' slot. I remember how I used to collect your pictures and how I cried at your rukhsati…!
We can be sure that noni would not get cross on little things. You can share secrets  with her knowing she would not pass it on.
She is a true professional but she makes it a point to spend  quality time with her children...and give them their due attention.
Noni..Have I ever told you that we love your smile..
or that we love the dahi baray you make?
or that we appreciate the little things you do to make people special? (like bringing donuts for nemo on every visit). Yes...we do appreciate all these things.

Instead of indulging in  heated arguments ..she prefers to ignore or be silent. She is soft spoken but also firm and strong in what she believes or says.

Though far apart ..we know that we can call anytime for free medical advice.
She is elegant, beautiful and a lovely khala. Thank you for showering us with your love and care.
If I could borrow one of your characteristics it would be your elegance.

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Faaiz Enam

He will always greet you with a shy smile. Though serious looking , he would indulge in crazy endeavors of his crazy cousins.
He always seems to take good care of his family members. ..helping them in small chores…caring for them…and tending to their needs affectionately.
Ammi always says that at dinners he would put down his plate after one serving…even if he loves the food …just out of takulluf.When she would insist on taking more..only then…he would take the plate again to eat more.

From a young age..he loves the questions which begin with..Why? How? What?.......
Faaiz: I wonder this happens? was universe created? How did  humans evolve? Is evolution a random process?
Person A: this is because…..blah blah
Faaiz: it really true?I am not convinced…How does it really work …?I would have to research
Person A: I told you how
Faaiz: (Closes his eyes….holds his head…asks

Faaiz is a perfectionist ….who would do things again and again and again to make them perfect.

 Faaiz...Where ever you go…whatever you do...remember we love you not ask..why?:P

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Qudsia Karim

Qudsia looks beautiful even when she wears no makeup…
               looks elegant in whatever she wears
               and  has an ever present amazing smile.
She shows love by taking out time and  making efforts to meet up when ever she comes. Her down-to-earth nature makes her lovable and easy -to- talk- to person . You always feel comfortable in her company . Her confidence and elegance makes her stand out from the crowd.
 Qudsia ..!Of all your things.. your smile is our  favorite .It lights up our lives . Keep smiling and making the world brighter.
"Use your smile to change the world . Do not let the world change your smile EVER!".
We love you!

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Farhan Ahmed

'Kharoos' is usually an alternative word for a boss. But I am lucky to have few of the finest supervisors in my career.
Farhan Ahmed  is  not a typical boss…mainly for the reason of his cool as cucumber attitude.
He does not interfere and criticize you for the way you carry out a task…He assigns and then lets you do it in your own way…guiding and correcting where ever needed . He has the character of not labeling others  work as his own(like a typical manager:D).He gives credit and praise to his workers where ever needed  .
He is a person who is always calm to the chaos.
"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth.."
Yes..FA is that kind of person who is always happy oblivious to his surroundings.
He has this wonderful way of always using humor  in his conversations. He can wrap complicated things in a small matchbox.
If I could borrow one of your characteristics , it would be your cool mindedness.
Thank you for being an excellent supervisor , guide and inspiration.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Asra Tanwir

'A cousin sees the first tear, catches the second, and stops the third.'

Asra Tanwir is a person who will come running..just on a phone call.She is always there to console make  birthdays special  and all of the above celebrate people on daily basis. make expressing  love , care and concern so easy  by your frequent hugs. You have a trademark sparkle attached to your personality.
Asra is a person whose anger beams with love. Even when she is angry ..her eyes show the unconditional  love . She refuses to be part of  family politics..and loves everyone…accepts everyone with their  shortcomings and forgives with generosity. She gives you respect as well as extra special treatment.

'A cousin is a warm quilt wrapped around your heart'….and yes Asra is that kind of person.
People love you…but Asra  shows love..she expresses love . She talks cautiously so no one gets  hurts with any word she utters.

If I could borrow one of your characteristics it would be the gift of frequent hugs and comfort you provide…or may be  your to-die-for smile…!difficult choice..!
You are the sweetest thing that has happened to our family. We all love you a lot! and your every hug means a lot..!

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Seema Khala(Seema Naiyer)

"Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”

Seema Khala's (
Seema Naiyer)  faced challenges and difficulties ..but she had the strength to endure it.Her success story is itself quite motivational.
Seema khala  is a  true professional. She is impressively organized . She would make a list of tasks everyday for all the  things t o be done and makes sure to accomplish all the tasks.
People usually are not very keen to learn new things..but she blends with time . She is always eager to make use of modern technology and gadgets to keep herself organized and updated.
She is very flexible but at the same time  a principled administrator.
She is a guest you are always ready to welcome. Even though we  do not meet often ..but with Seema khala there are no formalities. The first time you meet her….you feel in a comfort zone.  You can just be yourself with her. You can sit on the breakfast table for hours with her  ..listening to her positive chats.
You feel energized…!
Contentment is not an easy thing to find in today's busy life. I can see contentment on her face.  Even with a busy schedule ..she finds time to do things she loves .
Talking with her is always a pleasure as you get to hear inspirational stories, positive way of looking at things, being organized, ways for self -improvement, best parenting advices and all the things from which you can always learn  something . Her stories always have a lesson .An inspirational one.! She is a self-made successful woman…! Hats off to you!
Seema Khala !You are an inspiration for all the women as well as men.  We are proud to have you in our family.

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Abid mamoo

Abid mamoo was the youngest of his siblings..but his mother referred to him as her "mother".
Once she fell down and got hurt badly..but she told not to tell her "mother" (abid mamu) she would get a long phone about taking precautions..being careful ..having medicine and a long long lecture on how to take of herself.
We often felt nani amma to be a little baby of abid mamu. He was an extremely caring son.
He had a heart warming smile always and a very pleasant happy- go -lucky nature .His mother (nani amma) as well as sister(ammi) would start joking and laughing as soon as he called.His mother  frequently said:"woh to meri maan hai"(he is like my mother).They also had this sibling rivalry kind of relationship rather than mother and son relation....pulling legs....teasing.. each other..and caring  at the same time.Abid mamoo...Your ever green smile would always live in our hearts. 

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Asif Alam(mumma)

"Dads are  ordinary men turned by love into heroes, adventurers, story-tellers, singers of songs.

Asif Alam is a very loving father who takes deep interest  in his children's activities and constantly encourages them. His children are his top priority. 

He is a hunk for whom girls can fall for anytime :D

When it comes to being  'mumma' ..He  teases you till you just accept defeat but  his teasing and jokes never  turn into insults .He never offends you with his jokes .  His limits are well defined. He would bother you, he would tease you, he would make fun but  never never never offend or insult you.

Mumma ..when we were small, you used to bring beautiful gifts for us…each carefully selected and you would always be very concerned if we would like them.
When it comes to politics and sports ..he believes in ' tension leney ka bhi..aur deney ka bhi'
As far as politics is concerned..we are poles apart.!He shows blind faith to some politicians and expresses blind dislike(I know it is not any term but I have coined it for mumma) for some unfortunate ones . And those dislikes are so severe that you feel like pulling your own hair and banging your head on the wall.

I always felt a special attachment to you because of the love for music .I remember the times when you used to request for Music CD from Pakistan.
And as I said one Asif Alam is :
someone who fights like a friend..
scolds like a parent....
teases like a sibling..
shares like a friend..
guides like a father..
spoils like a grandparent...
loves like a mother

You have passed your test for being a brother ,father, son and mamoo successfully and beautifully.

Even If you do not speak out..your eyes show the genuine concern you feel for everyone in the family.
Even if we do not talk often..we always know that you will be there when we need you.
If I could borrow on of your characteristics  , it would be the pure love for each of your family member which so beautifully reflects in your eyes.
We love you mumma! You are awesome!

Wednesday, August 7, 2013


 "The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."

Nana ! You always gave top priority to nannu's needs. You loved her dearly.
Even in  little arguments between them..nana reflected his humorous side and told her that how much he cared about her.
He cared how his kids and even grand children turned out in life. We looked up to nana for advice. He was always there to discuss any problem that any family member faced and provided with multiple solutions.With a strong will power , you achieved great success in life.
Nana…we love your smile…your sense of humor and your strong confidence in yourself.
I remember how you taught us to respect our books. You hated when we folded the book mercilessly. You liked to see books unfolded while reading. You used to say ' jab aap books moRtay hain..mujhay lagta hai koi mujhay bend kar raha hai'..:)
Even during  never complain and always say "I am perfectly fine"
You cared about your children . When ammi was sick and was recommended assigned me the responsibility  to peel one pomegranate for her everyday and awarded me a gift  after I did that for a month.
I remember , how I  saved my broken tooth as a child  and gave it to you when I visited Pakistan in vacations…so you can bury it in your lawn…!
I cherish the moments when we used to communicate  through postal mails. There was no internet at that time..but we..nana nawasi exchanged letters very regularly . You always had a eloquent and graceful way of writing.

Nana ..You used to instruct all of us to watch the 23rd march parade every year..and every year we were scolded for being too lazy to get up early for the parade.
 Before your visits to USA you would circulate a diary in which we would fill the gifts we would like. We used to fill it to our heart's content.

We enjoyed your keen interest in computers, mailing etc. You were always prompt in replying to mails. But nannu used to call the computer her rival..:)…and granted it the status of your second wife.

This was the mail you sent to me after my wedding:
Pyari sahar,
A few words of advice:
You will be stepping into a new era of life which your parents and all those who adore you were waiting for.Your ammi ,nanoo and also apa,farah and khalas are living  examples. They have always tried to please in laws and/or their relations for example , nanoo taking burqa in the car while going to those relations of mine who liked to see girls in burqa etc . In short you have to make compromise according to situation and not be rigid in your life style which you have been used to . You have to mould yourself  wearing full sleeve on one end and tops and jeans on the other end. You must not hesitate between two extremes ,and the most important exercise will be to accommodate without any hesitation  your life partner wishes between two extremes as well.!

You always cared for us nana..and your love and care was always reflected in your emails.

Pyari Sahar,
 If you remember ,when you all were in Dhahran  and Mustafa mian was to come to this world ,I had asked all of you to give ammi daily bhuni hui kaleji .Now you should take it yourself in spite of the fact that your HGB is 11.


Nana ..I love you and miss your mails badly!

If I could borrow one your characteristics , it would be surely your no-complaining attitude towards problems!

Saturday, August 3, 2013


You make the burdens lighter..
Perspectives brighter.
Difficulties farther..
Solutions closer.
Obstructions dimmer..
Options clearer.
Fears fainter..
Hopes higher
Pessimism weaker..
People stronger..!

Wednesday, July 31, 2013


Sana is our little doll .We used to dress her up in fancy clothes and never get tired of taking her  pictures.

She is our dress designer ..whose motto can be :"If you ask for ideas…follow my idea fully or follow your own !(why did you ask in the first place?)". But we fully trust her designing  abilities . We can relax and trust sana to pick the best for us.
I wonder how these qualities can be merged together ..but she is  workaholic as well as a sleepy head. Actually being lazy is a luxurious hobby she can rarely enjoy.
She does not like to give explanations or lame excuses . She believes that everyone has a point of view and she does not need to provide any explanations for her opinions . Neither does she judge you because of differences in opinions. 
I wait for the gossip session with her..for which I have to wait for almost  an year.
Sana is ambitious .She has the capability to live her dreams.
In general ,
She is not into writing..but if she decides to …she does not stop until it is done.
she does not speak much..but once she starts ..there is no stop…! She can start talking at mid night and go on till  4 a.m.Phew!
Sana  is  committed to her  responsibilities. She has the duty of making tea after iftar..which she  timely fulfills. Once  when she was burning with fever, she woke up  at iftar and made the tea even I told her that  I can do that for her. 
Sana is a realist who can see and take things as they are . She likes to  see the real side of every picture instead of imagining an  option which does not exists.  Even when you ask for a suggestion..she would not sugar coat it. She will tell you ..exactly what she thinks about it..whether you like it or not.
When we ask her if she liked our shopping…she will tell only if she actually likes it..otherwise…she would not  just say 'yes' to keep  us happy. So when we need a 'real' opinion …we ask her…:)
And if you are day-dreaming about things which cannot happen….she would drag you down from cloud 9.

If I could borrow one of your characteristics, it would be  your realistic and no-self pity approach to life.
Sana is no one but herself! I love you my doll cum adviser :)

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

me (well its awkard...but as per mustafa's instruction)

Syed Mustafa Jamal posted on your timeline"Take a break on this birthday and enjoy being celebrated! Happy Birthday :)

Sahar jub bhi ati hai, iss umeed k sath k usse kuch na kuch likha hua milay ga. Aur usko woh mil jata hai.

It feels nice to say hello to you Sahar on your birthday. Have many happy returns of the day! Wish it was not Ramadan so that we could celebrate it more thoroughly. You are a great blessing of God for you are soft spoken, gentle and very caring indeed. You can not even scold or reprimand your own daughters. All this seems to be from a fairyland. Your angel like qualities have endeared you to us all. We feel fortunate to have you in our family and at that as a daughter in law, a very dear one, I must admit. Thank you for enlightening our lives!

Sahar is a wonderful person that Allah has sent to our home as our dear Saads wife . She thinks of others and hardly ever think of herself. She could never think of offending anyone. Always caring and smiling. If Allah had ever given me a daughter it would have been Sahar Thank you Sahar for being what you are May Allah always shower you with His bounties and blessings Ameen Happy birthday dear one

She is loving, caring and understands your problems without telling her.
Sahar, I still enjoy memories from your childhood when you used to forget your school bag in school or groccery shop. Your smile is marvellous!
Happy Birthday, beta!

Sahar, like the meaning of her name, is beautiful, lovely and fragrant. She knows what the other person wants. She is not only a good daughter but a good wife, sister and mother.
Sahar, I pray for your health and happiness with Saad and the kids.
Happy Birthday!
You are so sweet. And I love the way you care about me. You have got a beautiful smile.

And If ever I write a book about how to raise a perfect girl, I will have to consult your parents because you are the best!

Love you. And I wish you lots of hapiness and joy with Saad and children and everyone around you.

We, Karachiites, miss you so much! Happy Birthday, betu!

Loving, caring and an excellent writer. Salgirah Mubarak!
Lots of love,
Khala Ammi

Sweet candy of our family, caring, loving aur takaloof koot koot kar barha hai!
Annie Khala

There are only a few people in this world with a heart as pure and crystal clear in real as it seems from outside. Their love, gentleness and caring is free of impurities. Sahar, you are one of those people!
From the plump little Meiji baby, you have grown in to a beautiful, delicate young woman. Although I do miss the mischievious, cheerful and carefree Sahar you used to be. I also love the mature, sober and poetic style Sahar you have become.
My "motherly" bonding started with you when you came to live with us as a baby for a few days and you used to sleep with me at night. And since then I have always been proud of having you in my share as my "khaas beti"and will always be.
Happy Birthday beta. I wish you a life full of love, happiness, health and wealth along with Saad and your lovely princesses. May Allah always bless you with his Rehmat (Ameen).

I am blessed with amazing nieces and nephews - bringing their own unique qualities that are second to none. You can write a whole diary on Sahar but one thing that stands out all the time is her evergreen view on life. Always positive, and a smile on her face, she is willing to take that extra step every time to make someone happy. Happy Birthday Sahar, with lots of love and best wishes!

I am not very fond of attending weddings but was not pleased to have missed the wedding of my younger brother Saad with Sahar.
Sahar is soft-spoken, caring, down-to-earth, witty to the core and petite. She has a remarkable sense of humour. I am not sure though, even to this day, regarding one episode of Scrabble Match in AMC Mess, Abbottabad!
She has multitude of qualities, including being an enthusiastic cook (except roti making!) and writing. The latter speaks volumes for itself. Her poetry is largely a hidden asset. Sahar, remember how we failed to coax you to deliver your 'Kalam'.
The Sad feeling of not having attended her wedding is compounded day after day when I see such a happy couple in Sahar and Saad, Masha'Allah.
Omar Iqbal

Whenever I think of sahar, my mind conjures up a picture of a dynamite- small, but capable of a huge impact. Yes, she’s full of wit (yes, I have been subjected to her lethal pen when Rahma was about to be born) and humour, and has a sunny disposition. Divinely paired with Saad, the two of them make one of the most caring and tolerant couples I know. I love their little gestures that show they remember the little likes and dislikes of people around them- the crown she sent for rahmah’s first birthday, my favourite flavours of chips and brightly colored socks that Omar detests, aeroplane and army related gifts for hamza, handmade memorabilia for hiba and inaya’s dosti. We have spent three years together in a joint family and I appreciate her non-interfering attitude and ability to defuse situations immensely. Time has proven that she can be trusted with surprises and confidences absolutely. She’s been very considerate and supportive in helping me when we went for hajj, when i was ill and finally when we moved- saad and sahar even drove all the six hours (and got lost en route) to Chunian with us.

I shall always be sorry I missed her wedding. But over the years I’m glad that though we’re sisters-in-law by Fate, we’re friends by choice.
Sadaf Baji

Sahar baji is one of the most genuine and caring person that I've come across - she has absolute zero pretense about herself which is almost unheard of in this day and age - she's an absolute hit in her susral which again speaks volume of her character -
She starts suffering from short term memory loss when you decide to stay over at her place as she insists on feeding you every other hour, forgetting the bushel full of aloo ki bujhiya that she stuffed you with an hour back -
Shes the official go to person for after-meal family chai sessions and she does it with great big smile on her face - she has taken over admirably from Ammi Abbu in bringing up Saad - she would accompany him to raja bazar to buy a bolt, rainbow centre to buy CDs, on rickshaw, on foot, even on a mini-bus - she's an absolute blessing for all of us and we love her to bits - I would stop here because I don't want to run out of all the adjectives - happy birthday Sahar Baji

If there is one person I have met, with the virtues of a kind, patient, and sincere person, it is Sahar baji! Never in the years that I have known you, have I heard you gossip, and never have I heard you complain. MashaAllah the patience that you have I envy! That smile you wear through everything, never lets anyone feel uncomfortable, no matter how awkward the situation may be. These are the attributes of the kind heart you have which make you so very loveable. The sparkle in your eyes, when you are excited brings out the little child in you, who sees the good in every little thing, the way you say "haan yaaaaaaar!" and your "naa kero yaaaaaar!!, and mannn do I envy how silently you throw have GOT to teach me how to do that! LOL!! (May be next time :D)
Sahar baji, you know how to make the most of the littlest. Blessed to have a sister like you!

Like a beautiful morning she has a bright smile, a golden heart and a gorgeous face.She is dadi-ammas's eversmiling Sahar with a big generous heart.
Before facebook reminders of birthdays and anniversaries, we had Sahar to give us advance notice of upcoming events. She knew all of them..if she forgot we all forgot. Good at remembering special days-YES....remembering to take her backpack to school--NOT!! Sahar do you remember how many times you forgot your backpack at home or school.One time our elevator was out..we lived on the fifth floor...we went all the way down and half the way to school when she noticed that she had forgotten her backpack. Being the apa..I had to go back everytime.And the most famous episode..Sahar forgot her bag again at school.Before abbo left for school to retrieve the bag, he commented that she was ''bud-hawas''. As soon as abbo left she ran to her room and took out the urdu dictionary. I asked, what are you looking up? She said, '' bud-hawas''..I dont know what it means. Although she might not have learnt to take her bag along ,she did learn alot of other lessons.
Ammi tells us that she did not speak until she was 3. us k baad say bolna nahi chora Maybe she wanted everything to be perfect before it came out of her lips. Her poems and writings give us an insight into her beautiful, generous and caring heart. Like ammi and abbo she is a peoples person..we call her Miss PR.We can never keep up with the salam duas like her.
Sahar -you are the heart of our family and I am proud to have you as my sister.May Allah bless you with best of all worlds.
Happy Birthday

Sahar = Little miss sunshine..can see goodness in everything and everyone and brightens the day for everyone around her.
Happy Birthday!
For all of us, ‘Sahar’ is synonymous to a personality with an always-smiling-face.
I, personally, have the most beautiful childhood memories with Sahar – fighting, playing, room-sharing (we went well together as room-mates as neither of us liked a spic and span room ). We would fight and fight and fight and tear each other’s hair out .. it is strange that both of us still have hair on our heads. When we came to playing, we would do crazy things like running wildly round and round and round the centre table in the drawing room till the time the apartment owner who lived right below us would come up and ring our bell complaining to abbu.
Ammi used to make same clothes for myself and Sahar. Both of us were even taken to the hairdresser together. Ammi would always get our hair cut short. As soon as the hairdresser would be done with our hair, Sahar would look into the mirror and start crying. I didn’t really mind my haircut ever, but as soon as I would see Sahar crying, I would follow suit and then ammi abbu had to take two crying girls back home. This remained true for ALL our haircuts together.
As far as I remember, I did not use to eat vegetables because Baji wouldn’t eat them. Sahar toh theek hogayi, mai wesi he reh gayi
Sahar always manages to see the lighter side of things – she finds humour in the most serious of conversations. Secretly, I always wished I could become like her in this regard.
She is the PR person of the family. No matter if it is visiting someone, calling someone or emailing someone on any occassion … Sahar would have done it before the rest of us would have even thought about it …. Iss front pe Sahar ko humesha 100 mai se 500 number miltay hain (aur relative grading mai baqi sab ko -500 :p)
Sahar has a beautiful, gentle heart. I don’t think there is anyone on planet Earth who would disagree with that. Sahar, we cannot write as beautifully as you do, but one thing is common for all of us: we love you

She's colorful, vibrant, shiny, bright smile of ours.
Love you and Happy Birthday!

Sahar is a giver; someone who gives without expecting anything in return. She would do all the
agonizing work, before anybody else, to give comfort to others. And she makes it look like it's the most pleasurable work she could do.
She is extremely caring and thoughtful. Once, when I had a high fever, she won't sleep because she was too worried for me. God-knows-how she got to know that I wanted to drink water in the middle of the night and she came out of no-where, asking 'kuch chahiyaye?' 'kaise ho?'. Like she was never asleep, just to make sure I was okay.
She knows what you want before you ask for it. When she is at home, she doesn't let anybody move an inch to do anything by themselves. It's like magic when she is around because everything gets done by itself ;).
Whenever she comes from Islamabad we share a room together and we have never-ending gossip sessions. She is a good listener and easy to talk to. And you don't realize the time passing by and we end up saying, 'Oh shoot itne raat hogae, chalo so jain' :p.
I have seen how, over the years, whenever Inaya asks how? why? what? questions, she answers them patiently, while anybody else would get easily annoyed. And you can see Inaya taking after her sensibilities.
She loves everybody and anybody and she would always be the first to visit all the rishtedars we dont even know existed ;). She is like a candle that offers itself to give everything it has, to others. And you could see that goodness shining through her ever-smiling face.
I hope you always stay the same!
Happy Birthday, Sahar!

Sahar apa, you are one of the wittiest funny person I have met. In fact we have grown up listening to tales about you. To name a few either it had you boiling the rice without washing it first or eating out from money that you had collected as charity in your university.
I guess everyone from the chawani party would remember how you scared all of us while hena apa and you were telling the 'surf excel heina' story.
I am probably the one in the family that has utilized your stay in Islamabad the most. From amazing food that I get to eat…pizza roti…shakes and what not to dropping me to my friends and never scolding or saying a word you always make my stay in Islamabad amazing!
I hope you have an awesome day.
Happy Birthday Sahar apa!
I love you

She is the social glue that holds the family together, not only remembers everybody's birthdays but knows how many times you have visited her place, you know what I mean. her great ways of showing affection surely makes you happy and her smile, lights up a room. I love you, Sahar apa. Happy Birthday

If we are lucky enough, we may come across some amazing people who make us feel so special; People who make us feel like we have been made perfectly flawless. And the reason I consider myself extremely lucky is because I already had YOU when I was born.
Sahar, from helping me study when I was a kid to annoying me about all the female friends I ever had in my life(lol), you make sure you are there in every part of my life, no matter where you are. You keep on doing these small brilliant things that never seize amazing me. And I keep thinking what a truly incredible person you are!
It has been a while since you have been celebrating people. But today is your day. So let this Wednesday be your turn to feel special.
Happy Birthday, my awesome!
Lots and lots of love,

Dear Sahar Khala,
You are the kindest and the best khala. You are always nice and very funny. You are an outstanding cook and you are very caring to others and family. I am very lucky to have you as a khala. Have an amazing birthday!

You are so kind and caring,
So bright and so nice.
Great as always,
And sweet as an apple.

Happy Birthday Sahar Khala,

I love how you make our hairstyles!

Dear, Sahar khala,
You're kind. When it was Ramadan on the 1st day I fasted in Pakistan you gave us goody bags. Happy b-day! Have a nice birthday

You are a good 'planner'. You are a funny mom. I like how you tease your makes me laugh.

Happy Birthday Sahar apa, wasn't able to write a para. But I think you'll find this paragraph to be greater than all the others that everyone wrote.

You look a lot like Reese Witherspoon.

As today Sahar Syed celebrates 20
birthday ( believe me she doesn’t look older than
that, infact she can still easily pass for a teen ager), we celebrate her presence in our lives.
I remember the day that we saw her for the first time in a wedding. In those days Iqbal
Ahmed and Anjum Iqbal had asked me to look for a suitable match for our very dear
handsome bachelor of that time , Saad Iqbal, with his Waheed Murad looks and
uncontrollable laughter, he was also very specific about his criterion. He clearly
mentioned that her wife should not be petite. When Sadaf Azhar and I went and met
Sahar at her place, we instatneously liked what we saw. A happy family, with great
family values, and more importantly Sahars pleasant personality. We just hoped that , like
most asian girls, she would soon put on weight after getting married, but I couldn’t be
more wrong than that. Soon after, she took her place in our family and before that, in our
hearts! She is person with a warm smile, an ever ready helping hand, and a constant witty
commentator, that just fills the fun in our lives, when we are all together.
She is some one who can always be trusted while preparing surprises, and secret plans.
When you discuss anything with her, you don’t have to say “don’t tell anyone” because
you can be absolutely sure that she wouldn’t.
Saad and Sahar are quite opposites of each other, one is loud, the other is soft, one is
literary and the other has nothing to do with literature, but they complement each other so
beautifully. By Allahs will we choose you for Saad, but you have surely made me so
proud of the selection. With you and Saad, in close vicinity of Abbu and Ammi, the rest
of us are at remarkable ease.
For any fun plans you are ever ready, and that makes me connect to you at a whole
different level. You are a friend who is spontaneous, sparky and creative in your ideas for
good times together, and offcourse the never ending source of great after meal, cup of tea.
As mentioned by others , your vomiting is ultrasonic. This one time we sat together side
by side while going to murree, and when we got there, we found out that you had
vomited a number to times and I had not known at all. How do you manage to do that, it
is still a mystery for us, but a great talent of yours, specially when Saads regular cough is
heard from two houses down the lane.
To see you talk loudly or yell or shout is something we can only visualize in our dreams.
I still remember the way you had decorated the gift basket for Avizheh when she was
born, it had all those most important things, that I truly cherish even today. I admire your
love for the color hot pink, your taste of wearing ethnic jewellery, your food
presentations, your expertise in anything related to computers, and above all , your
company for late nights gup shup whenever we are together.
Alhamdolilah, in the four bahus of ammi, ( Omar Iqbal can read what he wants) , Sadaf,
Sahar and Shaima, have sisters, but I was deprived of them till I found you all.
Thank you Allah for the love we all have for each other, may Allah bless our children
with same sisterly love and affection for each other.
And thank you Sahar for whatever you are, for you are truly a blessing for all of us. Lots
of love and prayers for you always.
Tania Baji.